We all know Taylor Swift. She’s our favorite boy-crazed girl to joke about.
Taylor Swift is often the butt of the joke on talk shows, in magazines, and other news sources. In fact, Taylor is almost slut-shamed by Joel McHale when he shows a picture of Taylor and says: “She’s like a velociraptor, if she senses movement, she dates it.”
In another instance, Ellen Degeneres comments on Taylor’s dating life (all in good fun) by saying: “Literally after they mate, The Black Widow immediately eats her ex. At least Taylor Swift just writes a song about you.” Almost every entertainment news source has commented or made fun of Swift’s dating life, but maybe we should be taking advice from her.
Taylor has dated exactly two people in the last few years. Yes, two. Wait, but what about Taylor Lautner? And Joe Jonas? How about John Mayer? Jake Gyllenhaal? In an interview with Rolling Stone, Taylor addressed the matter. “You know,” Swift says, “if you want some big revelation, since 2010 I have dated exactly two people. Conor Kennedy and Harry Styles.”
But Taylor, what about those other boys? She added, “There are slide shows of a dozen guys that I either hugged on a red carpet or met for lunch or wrote a song with but I apparently was, quote unquote, ‘linked’ to them—it’s just kind of ridiculous.”
Okay, now it’s time for the popular middle school game: Dating or Relationship?
A game where we identify whether your crush since kindergarten, the one you’ve gone on one “date” with (if having your mom drive you both to a movie with your friends is considered a date), is your boyfriend or not.
Dating is exactly what it sounds like: going on dates. It doesn’t matter if you’ve gone on one date, or on fifteen, the purpose of dating someone is to get to know the other person. Yes, dating turns into relationships, but dating someone does not mean that they will be your BF/GF or that you will marry them.
What is dating? Dating is going on dates with someone to:
1) discover more about them 2) have fun, and 3) determine if you are compatible.
Dating is, but does not always have to be, the first step in finding a person that you are compatible with for a future relationship. But, it is important to realize that dating does not have to be the first step in finding your future mate.
Maybe you will work out. Maybe you won’t. That is why you date. There is a popular misconception that comes with dating: If a guy asks a girl out on a date, he already likes her.
Yes, it is important to have some sense of attraction to another person when going on dates, but you are going on dates to find out if you like that person romantically and what you like about them.
Young adults everywhere have many misconceptions about dating and what that means for these two peoples futures. This is especially a problem in college, where thousands of boys and girls live in the same proximity for the majority of the year, stressing out, getting little sleep, and trying to find an escape from schoolwork.
Not to mention the pressure to find your mate and secure your ring by spring. College students love to make a big deal out of nothing. For instance, if a guy and a girl have lunch together, it is assumed that they like each other.
Even if these two were going on dates, that does not mean they will 1) start a romantic relationship, or 2) get married.
In her interview with Rolling Stone, Taylor Swift was calling out reporters and fans. Just because she had gone on a date with a guy, or Heaven forbid, hugged him, people automatically assumed that they were in a relationship.
Maybe we should take advice from Taylor. According to her, she’s only officially dated two people. So stop it. Stop over-analyzing friendships or even dates.
Go on more dates.
Learn something new about people. And while you’re at it, learn something new about yourself, too.
Featured image courtesy of maneater.com. In-text image courtesy of nex1tv.com.