When Your Lover Never Dies. Literally.

Object sexuality appeals for minority recognition.

Reassuring phrases like “I never cheated on her, I’ve always been in love with her” are words that every wife wants to hear from her husband. According to Japan Times, Akihiko Kondo, a 35-year-old Japanese man, said exactly that about his wife. Unfortunately, she does not seem to care too much about his long-term commitment.

That is because Kondo’s wife is Hatsune Miku, a virtual reality hologram singer. Although the cross-dimensional marriage is not legally recognized, Kondo approaches his marriage with all legitimacy. Beginning with an official ceremony, acquiring a moving, talking image of Miku that floats in a desktop device, and waking up to her each morning, Kondo is dedicated to investing into his marriage.

More Cases

Kondo’s marriage to an object is not the first. In the past decades, there have been a number of marriages between humans and objects. An article from Psychology Today mentions cases including objects such as the Eiffel Tower, the Statue of Liberty, the Berlin Wall and an amusement park ride. Sometimes individuals, like Erika La Tour Eiffel, even change their name to show their oneness with the object.

Objectum sexuality (OS), or objectophilia is the “newly named sexual orientation claimed by people who openly declare their desire for objects, not as fetishes, but as amorous partners.”
The person holds “strong feelings of love and commitment” towards the object, they may engage in sexual activity, and most individuals perceive it as a mutual relationship, with reciprocated feelings of love.

Understanding that cross-dimensional marriages are not acknowledged by the society at large or the law leaves individuals with OS to feel like a “sexual minority.” In Kondo’s case, he personally calls for a greater social diversity and the “consideration of all kinds of love and happiness,” as his own parents and relatives did not even attend his wedding.

After conducting a clinical study on a group of 40 participants- the first of its kind- clinical sexologist Amy Marsh revealed on TV that “she supported object sexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation.” German sexologist Volkmar Sigusch observes objectophiles to lean towards asexuality, and “not classifying such odd behavior as pathological.”  In conclusion, Sigusch comments: “The objectophiles aren’t hurting anyone. They’re not abusing or traumatizing other people. Who else can you say that about?”

Even though objectophiles and some sexologists acknowledge this sexual orientation as a minority in need of representation, the same idea is incomprehensible to others.

According to The National Survey of Family Growth and the National Longitudinal Survey of Adolescent to Adult Health, 95 percent of young adult males and 93 percent of young adult females in the US identify as heterosexual. This data confirms that the social majority still holds to the traditional sexual attraction between a man and a woman.

For traditional Christians, the Bible gives clear indication that marriage is the joining of opposite genders. Genesis 2:24 says, “A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.” In continuation, 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4 reads, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control your own body in a way that is holy and honorable.” All throughout the Scriptures, sexual actions outside the marital covenant between a man and woman are identified as dishonorable.

Even in the secular view, the Oxford dictionary defines marriage as “The legally or formally recognized union of two people as partners in a personal relationship.” Although the legal view of marriage does not limit it to a heterosexual couple, it does acknowledge marriage between two humans only, not any objects.

However, object attraction is not the only thing most people with OS have to deal with. Amy Marsh’s research showed that about half of the participants reported autism spectrum disorder or Asperger’s syndrome. These developmental disorders can hinder individuals from understanding the behaviors of other people and making it easier to form emotional attachments to objects instead.

Is This Real?

Although cases of OS are rare, sexologists agree that “The emotions and experiences reported by people with OS correspond to general definitions of sexual orientation.” Criteria including “feelings and self-contempt” for qualification as a sexual orientation is found in heterosexual and homosexual relationships as well.

Individuals with OS cannot deny the reality of “their array of emotions and depth of connection” of their personal experience. On the other hand, the idea of sexual attraction to objects is a foreign concept to society at large, just as homosexuality was unfamiliar and taboo just in recent decades. As time goes on and the possibility of more research on OS emerges, a lot is to be learned about these unique individuals.

Some people, like Kondo, desire a relationship with an object that will never age, cheat or die. They want their sexuality to be recognized. Others want to observe this strange attraction with speculation, as they do with every behavior outside of the social norm.

People with OS want to be acknowledged as legitimate. Others don’t want to accept another sexual orientation on the basis of emotion and feelings.

With an increasing number of individuals revealing their attraction to objects, society can no longer ignore that this phenomenon exists.

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